New York State Funeral Directors Association

A KC-10 Extender and crew assigned to the 6th Air Refueling Squadron with the unique call sign of Brent06 took off early Tuesday morning from Travis AFB on a mission to honor one of their own.

The call sign will only be used one time and was in honor of Maj. Brent Burklo, 6th ARS KC-10 pilot, who passed away July 10 at the age of 32 after a two-year battle with cancer.

Most caregivers have regrets. They wonder whether they've done too much or too little, too early or too late, too harshly or too passively.

They regret the things they've said and done, and more importantly, the things they failed to say or do.

Here's my most painful regret. I decided to skip my grandmother's 90th birthday party.

Woman viewing ocean alone

The covers on the other side of the bed are barely rumpled these days.

There’s just one toothbrush in the holder, one plate at the table, one coffee cup in the sink.

You didn’t want this, weren’t expecting it, wish it wasn’t happening but here it is, and in “Widows’ Words” by various writers, edited by Nan Bauer-Maglin, you’re absolutely not alone.

Video: Slaves No More

New York's Capital Region honors, re-buries Colonial-era slaves. Found by accident in an unmarked cemetery, scientists pinpointed their African origin and the community held a wake and funeral.

Video: Family History

Today, resources are becoming more widely available, giving people the ability to learn exciting stories about their ancestors. Find 14 great tips on the Blog.


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