New York State Funeral Directors Association

Woman viewing ocean alone

The covers on the other side of the bed are barely rumpled these days.

There’s just one toothbrush in the holder, one plate at the table, one coffee cup in the sink.

You didn’t want this, weren’t expecting it, wish it wasn’t happening but here it is, and in “Widows’ Words” by various writers, edited by Nan Bauer-Maglin, you’re absolutely not alone.

In loving memory etched in stone

If you live close to the cemetery where your loved one is buried, it should be fairly easy to stop by and pay your respects.

But for those who live hundreds of miles away – and those with roadblocks to mobility such as a disability or inability to travel – simply seeing their loved one’s grave site can be a real gift.

With the help of an online project, anyone who visits a cemetery can help those who can’t by simply taking a photograph.

Video: Slaves No More

New York's Capital Region honors, re-buries Colonial-era slaves. Found by accident in an unmarked cemetery, scientists pinpointed their African origin and the community held a wake and funeral.

Video: Family History

Today, resources are becoming more widely available, giving people the ability to learn exciting stories about their ancestors. Find 14 great tips on the Blog.


SympathyNotes is written to stimulate discussion of death and grief. Opinions do not reflect the views of NYSFDA.

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