New York State Funeral Directors Association

A hate crime task force was assembled to probe vandalism after dozens of headstones were toppled in Rochester.

The foul attack of an Upstate-New York cemetery followed similar vandalism at cemeteries in Missouri and Pennsylvania – leading to suspicion some kind of religion-based hatred was fueling the destruction.

Not long after the near-hysteria began, damage cited as a likely anti-Jewish hate crime was reported at a Washington Cemetery in Brooklyn.

It only takes a second.

One sixtieth of a minute, a fraction of an hour, about two blinks. You have tens of thousands of such moments each day and you don’t even notice them, really.

But then, there’s that one second that counts and, as in “Kadian Journal” by Thomas Harding, that’s all it takes to lose someone you love.

Jack, the cat who adopted us three years ago, arrived on our doorstep because he has a special calling.

Most days in the funeral business are emotionally overwhelming, but Jack lightens the atmosphere and is a great stress reliever for our family and the families we serve.

Even though most of his day is spent lounging in the sun, occasionally shredding some paper or sitting on a desk, he plays an integral part in our lives and the business.

Video: Slaves No More

New York's Capital Region honors, re-buries Colonial-era slaves. Found by accident in an unmarked cemetery, scientists pinpointed their African origin and the community held a wake and funeral.

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