New York State Funeral Directors Association

Funeral Director Rosemary Fisher and Daughter Addy

When I was asked to write about how I balance being a mother and a funeral director, I immediately felt two things.

I was flattered to even be considered to have found balance (fake it ‘til you make it!). And I felt guilty that part of me wanted to try to find a way to say “no.”

Funeral Director Nicole LaRue, husband Steve and sons Zakkary and Alexander

My name is Nicole M. LaRue, thirty-six years old, the daughter of William J. and Shelley A. Breen.

I am one of twelve children and I graduated from Ogdensburg Free Academy in 2001.

Every day I play two very special roles.

Funeral Director Michelle Kinville and daughter Danielle

It’s 2 a.m. and my oldest daughter, Allison (3 ½ years old), has just come into our bedroom for the second time.

“Mommy, I want you.”

I give in and move over, letting her crawl into our bed.

At 4 a.m., the ASD app on my phone makes a bird-tweeting sound indicating that someone has a death call.

Video: Slaves No More

New York's Capital Region honors, re-buries Colonial-era slaves. Found by accident in an unmarked cemetery, scientists pinpointed their African origin and the community held a wake and funeral.

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