New York State Funeral Directors Association

Reading insensitive mail after the death of a loved one is difficult

After her mom died a month ago, and with other relatives far away – geographically or otherwise – my wife assumed the responsibility of putting her mother’s affairs in order.

It’s an emotional and administrative task that started out as a red tape-laden mess bound to go nowhere – until I explored this office called Surrogate’s Court.

I never really understood how important a holiday candle-lighting event at a funeral home might be until recently. Now, I think I get it. 

My wife’s mom died recently and unexpectedly. It was the day before her birthday, a week before Thanksgiving and a month before Christmas.

These are holidays that my wife has never spent without her mother. They’re holidays I’ve spent with the two for the past 18 years straight. Now, they’re holidays I want to cancel altogether.

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